02

Feb

My FAMOUS 5 Tips: PART #2

 

WHAT YOU CAN DO NOW TO START LIVING THOSE 5 TIPS!

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TIP #2 It’s Not You, It’s THEM!

Repeat this: “IT’S NOT ME, IT’S THEM!

Let’s be honest – most, if not all, of your insecurities & fears (& assumptions you’ve made about yourself) stem from the words, actions, & half-assed opinions of others – most of which occurred when you were a child, by people who were experiencing their own problems that day.

The funny thing about these insecurities and assumptions is that they go unchallenged; we simply accept them as truths.

Stop and think about the events that affected you then and continue to affect you negatively. Think back to these events: they could be incidents with a parent, teacher, sibling, or bullying peer. Now, choose the one that you feel affected you the most and continues to haunt you and keep you from doing everything that you should in life.

Write down the ‘Who,’ ‘What,’ ‘When,’ and ‘How’ of this negative incident.

Now, how about the ‘Why?’

Hmmm, you’ve never questioned the ‘Why,’ have you?! You’re not alone.

Everything leaves an impression on us as children, and unless an adult helped us understand the ‘Why’ at the time of the incident, we just accept AS TRUTH that the ‘Why’ is because of something that was wrong with us. We must have deserved the abuse. The trauma must have been our fault.

In fact, we feel shame for something that was never our fault to start with. Keep in mind that this is all done subconsciously and so, especially as children, we are powerless against it.

It was never our fault, however. Truth is, we were simply in the wrong place at the wrong time. That teacher, that bully, that parent didn’t know how to cope, and took his/her anger out on us. ‘Why?’

Well, it’s time to question that ‘Why.’ It’s time to shed this outer layer of undeserved shame. It’s time to RECLAIM the power that we lost that day, and each day since.

It’s time to TEST & CHALLENGE our assumptions & insecurities!

How? Stay tuned…

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